We were brought up not really knowing love to it's core.
Mainly love of SELF.
This morning my 19 year old daughter sent me a tiktok of a little girl saying affirmations in front of a mirror while her mom did her hair.
She saying she is smart, she is loving, she is worthy of love, she is enough, exactly how she is.
I literally cried.
It took me 51 years to really start realizing how worthy of love I am.
I cried because my kids are 16, 18, 19, and 26 and I wish I had known all of this when they were young.
I loved them to my core when they were small, I was home with them, and homeschooled some of them for some years, I did the very best I knew how to love them.
They say we can't love others unless we love ourselves, and I always thought that was dumb, because I sure did love other people and my kids.
But looking at it from this perspective, when you really really start to love yourself, and deep deep down know how worthy you are of love, and how loved you are by God, ( Source, higher power, universe, all of it is love) you really start to understand what love is.
Having this conversation with my daughter Autumn about how I wish I had known these things when they were little got us talking about children and how they are treated.
Autumn works in a daycare so she sees littles acting out all the time.
I shared with her something that I shared on facebook this morning about how we are all children walking around in adult bodies, still looking for that love.
When adults act out, when they get angry, yell at eachother, commit crimes, fight with spouses or anyone, when they act out in ways we think adults shouldn't, they are still yearning for that love.
When I feel crabby, it's almost always a "need" that I'm having.
We are still searching for that love.
When your spouse "acts up" and gets mad and yells or ignores you, or treats you in a way that you don't like, know that deep down what they really need is to be loved.
May sound ridiculous but it's true.
So children are the same.
When children don't act "right" or what's right in our eyes, we yell at them, we tell them to knock it off, we get irritated and sometimes abuse them with spanking to get them to "act right".
But being yelled at or spanked is not what they need.
They are acting out because they need something. They need attention, they need assurance, they need love.
It's the same for criminals. Why do we think people are killing other people, or stealing, or doing any of the things they are doing? They are in lack. They are doing whatever they can to get their needs met. ( sure, some are not mentally all there and have pyschiatric issues but most of the time they are needing something they don't know how to get).
How did the world get the way it is, where instead of loving people and meeting those needs we use corporal punishment?
We lock people up or beat them when they are bad.
When children are bad, we spank them,
How was that EVER ok?
I'm not saying I didn't spank my kids. Hardly ever. But I sure did yell and treat them like little criminals when they were wanting love. That makes me sad.
We do what our parents did most of the time, until we break out of who our parents were, and sometimes we never do.
I was spanked as a child. A lot. With the hand, with a belt, with a stick. My mom even took a bible verse, " Spare the rod, spoil the child" and wrote it on the stick my ass was beat with.
This is not a bash on my parents. I know my parents did the very best they could with what they knew. We all do.
But when I think about that, I think how can we humans feel that hurting another human is ok?
Especially a child?
How are we justifying this in our minds that the only way a child will behave is if we hurt them?
and then threaten them with being hurt if they have emotions?
Because that is exactly what's happening.
Kids act out and do "naughty" things becuase they are lacking something, needing somthing, having emotions and that's the only way they know how to express it.
So we slap and yell and hit the emotions out of them,
Makes perfect sense right?
No.
But we do it anyway.
Because someone told us our kids will end up to be spoiled brats if we don't.
What a bunch of shit.
The thing is, in this world we have forgotten what love is.
We complain about all the wars and homeless starving people, and the crime, but we live in a state of hate, we forgot how to love.
Seriously.
I was literally told "I spank you because I love you. You need discipline to be a good person".
So that's what love is?
Then......... to be in religion on top of that, where your taught that God is an angry judgmental God and build a special hell for you in the ground, but he loves you. He loves you, just do what he says and accept what he says, and you will be loved, BUT he gives out sickness and suffering to teach us lessons.
What???
We All got sucked into this twisted world, and forgot what love is.
We forgot what we came from and who we are~ LOVE.
I am only one person sharing what took me 52 years to learn, but if I teach it to my children, and you teach it to yours, it will sure be a start to bringing this world back to love.
We humans are all spirits wearing these flesh suits, and we all came from one source, and that source is LOVE.
We need to start remembering who we are.
We forgot.
When little babies are born, they still know. We train them to know otherwise.
I'm here to remind you of who you ( we) really are.
let's get back to it.
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